Good Morning CFTP,
Watch the two clips I put in the CrossFit The Point Members Facebook group before you read this.
I have a dream. A dream where every person is judged by what they can do and not what they look like.
I’ve been thinking a lot about this lately. For those of you who have been at The Point for any period of time you know how frustrated I get when someone tells me “I don’t want to get bulky.” It’s not that I don’t understand where you are coming from. I do. I’m not frustrated at your desire I am frustrated at the society we live in that makes us think that we need to look a certain way to be beautiful. I understand the pressures we put on ourselves and the pressures people put on you from the outside. I understand that there is a certain perception on what beauty looks like. I’m not only talking about women here either. Men do the same thing to ourselves. Men can be as hard on themselves as women are.
I find myself looking in the mirror and saying, “Man… I look fat.” (Just ask Emily). When I write it down it sounds stupid but we are our own harshest judges. We are never satisfied with how we look and we never will be if all we care about is how we look or what we weigh. Throw away the scale!
I believe there needs to be a fundamental change in how we look at others and how we look at ourselves and I believe CrossFit has made huge strides in changing this perception. I took a few lines from these two videos and I’d like to use them here.
The first one is from one of my favorite people, Brooke Ence. It was from the shorter video called “Does CrossFit make women bulky?” In it she says something very profound in my opinion. She proposes the question: “How are we supposed to look?”
Society has put this standard of beauty out there that is almost impossible to achieve. When someone doesn’t fit “the mold” then all of the sudden she’s too bulky, has too big of traps, her legs are too big. I can’t believe how rude people can be to their “friends”. I’ve had women in tears with something they heard someone say about them. This frustrates me. It’s not right and I hope that at very least our members at our box feel comfortable with where they are at and with where their bodies are at.
My goal is to get everyone to set performance goals. Have something to shoot for that you can control and let your body be what it wants to be. That doesn’t mean we don’t need to work hard. Just the opposite. We need to work hard to achieve our goals. We need to work hard at the gym and eat right in the kitchen. “Performance goals will get you there faster; which is going to get you to what you want to look like.”
“True beauty is strength and fitness and confidence in yourself.”
I love this. Especially the last part. Confidence. I can’t tell you what a difference confidence makes in the way we carry ourselves. If we are confident with where we are at then it changes our whole outlook on life. When we change our outlook from “just trying to be skinny” to being “proud of what your body can do” then you become an unstoppable force. Then your focus in training changes and becomes “not working out to look good… but working out to be strong and fit.”
I want to be clear on one thing. There is a difference between being confident in where we are at in our journey and being satisfied with where we are at. I believe we should never settle for good enough and we should always be striving to be stronger, to be fitter, to run faster, to lift more. We should always be striving to be better but also be proud of how far we have come. I believe we are all guilty of judging ourselves against other people. We are all different types of athletes. It’s like comparing apples to oranges. Only judge your performance off what you can do. If you are giving 100 percent all of the time then that is all we can ask for.
I have a dream and I believe that dream is becoming more and more a reality each day. I will never judge you by the way you look. I will judge you by the effort you put in. I don’t care if you are last to finish in the class. I don’t care if you have an extra hundred pounds to lose. I don’t care if you can’t do a pullup yet or a pushup or run a full 400 meters. All I care about is that you are at the box and that you are giving me 100 percent every time. I care about your journey. Your journey is nobody else’s but your own. I know CrossFit The Point can help you achieve your goals but in order to do so I need you to commit and to promise me and my coaches that when you come in you are going to push yourself to your limit and that you are going to give your all.
See you on Monday!